You know what it looks like. How can some men dance and look like the most masculine guy
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in the room and others look like a ballerina? Masculinity in dance comes from
your posture. If you don’t feel like your dance posture is manly enough, here are some tips to put some testosterone back in your ballroom.
9 Tips for a Masculine Dance:
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Drop your shoulders – Just relax the shoulders and let them slope down.
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Roll your shoulders back - bring your shoulders back and let your chest out. This, along with dropped shoulders, creates a very masculine and confident look. You never see John Wayne with hunched shoulders. No way. He is standing tall, shoulders back chest out.
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Keep your weight forward on the balls of your feet- With you weight forward and your knees slightly flexed, you have much greater balance and control. This will keep you grounded and the more grounded you are the less feminine you appear.
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Stand up straight- Your mother knew what she was talking about. Imagine a string at the top of your head. Pull the string and imagine the effect this would have on your spine. Allow your chest, lumbar and pelvis to seperate.
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Keep your chin up – Don’t look down. Strong, confident men carry themselves with their head held high.
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Move your hips….just enough – You can look very masculine and still move your hips. Male hips move differently then female hips. Let them move naturally and its Masculine. Move them to much and you are doing the cha cha like a sissy girl.
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Don’t bounce - Just don’t do it.
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Study proper arm styling – Your arms can have a signifigant impact on how masculine, or feminine, you appear. Avoid arm movements over your head. Yes, there are times that the movement requires it, but most don’t. When I first started dancing, I didn’t know what to do with my arms. As a result, my movements were weak. Weak can look feminine.
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Move with confidence- Practice your footwork, arm styling and posture. Confidence comes with knowing your movements.
These are just a few things you can quickly adopt to change your posture. Are there other areas that can make a big difference? Leave a Comment. Love to hear from you.
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Last weekend I simply watched some friends dancing the Tango – all were inspired!
For those who haven’t figured it out, dancing is one of the most romantic things you can do. It shows leadership, grace and sensitivity. Us ladies appreciate that!
Learn to dance well and your lady will appreciate it
Thank you for this article. I am a 35 year old straight male. I have always liked the “idea” of ballroom dance, or at least The idea I have had of it. Moving to music with a woman, especially a woman I love, leading our bodies in a dynamic partnership, the hisory, the music – especially tango, these are some things that make it so appealing. I have to tell you that the main thing holding me back has been watching compeitions. Videos on YouTube and competitions show what is supposed to be the highest form of the art, right? Well it’s totally off putting. I don’t mean to be harsh, but the garish makeup, the pointlessly skimpy and silly costumes, and most of all, and this is the biggest detractor for me, the way the men swish their hips and present their hands with all the flourishes, just the DANDINESS of it all, again, is totally off putting. This is true for me and most of the guys I know, straight or gay! I DO have gay friends, I AM a hairdresser, I have zero problem with homosexuality and I will only ever live, as I do now, in liberal, pro gay neighborhoods. It’s the flamboyance and flamieness of professional dancers that is keeping me and most of the guys I know away from dance. Isn’t there another way? I’m really sorry if this is rude, it is, however, sincere.
David, considering your articles on the subject I was hoping to see some video of you dancing, unfortunately a quick search for your name doesn’t turn anything up. Is there anywhere to see it?
Thank you for your comments. I have recently begun video taping some social dancing and will be posting them to YouTube in the very near future.
David